Become Irreplaceable, Get Chosen
The Art of Being Chosen
by Ryan Jenkins and Joey Coleman
Business
TL;DR
This book is all about how to strategically position yourself to be the undeniable choice in any situation. It's not about begging; it's about making yourself so damn valuable and visible that people have to pick you. You'll learn to cultivate distinctiveness, understand what others truly value, master strategic visibility, and build a reputation for unwavering reliability. Forget just applying; learn how to make them want to pick you, every single time.
Action Items
Spend 15 mins thinking about one thing you genuinely love or are good at that most people aren't. Then, find a way to subtly flex that today.
Before you ask for anything today, pause and think: 'What's the undeniable benefit for the other person if they say yes?' Then, lead with that.
Find one relevant online community or real-life event related to your goals. Make one genuine, non-spammy contribution or connection today.
Pick one small commitment you've made (to yourself or someone else) and absolutely crush it today, no excuses. Prove you're not all talk.
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Key Chapter
Chapter - Don't Be a NPC in Your Own Life (aka The Power of Distinctiveness)
Ever feel like you're just another face in the crowd, scrolling through life while everyone else gets picked for the cool stuff? This chapter hits different, explaining that being chosen isn't some random lottery. It's about owning your unique vibe and making it impossible to ignore. Think of it like this: if everyone's wearing beige, you show up in neon. It's not about being fake; it's about amplifying what makes you, you, in a way that screams 'I'm the one you've been looking for.' Stop trying to fit in and start standing out, because blending in is for NPCs.
Key Methods and Approaches
Your Vibe Check
(AKA: Cultivating Distinctiveness)
Description:
Stop being a basic clone. Figure out what makes you you and crank that shit up.
Explanation:
Society's like a massive TikTok feed. If you're just doing the same dance as everyone else, you're gonna get scrolled past. This is about finding your unique filter, your signature move, your 'I don't give a f*ck' attitude that actually makes people stop and watch. It's not about being weird for the sake of it, but being authentically you in a way that resonates. Like, if everyone's posting perfect, filtered selfies, you drop a hilarious, relatable meme.
Examples:
Instead of applying for every job with a generic resume, tailor it to show your specific, quirky skills.
In a sea of bland LinkedIn profiles, yours has a personality that screams 'hire me, I'm not boring.'
When everyone's posting perfect, filtered selfies, you drop a hilarious, relatable meme.
Today's Action:
Spend 15 mins thinking about one thing you genuinely love or are good at that most people aren't. Then, find a way to subtly flex that today.
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