Give More, Get More
Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success
by Adam Grant
Business, Psychology
TL;DR
This book ain't about being a doormat. It's about how being a strategic giver can make you rich, famous, and not a total loser. You learn to spot the takers (the energy vampires), chill with the matchers (the 'you scratch my back' crew), and how to be a smart giver without getting played. Basically, it's a guide to networking without feeling slimy and building real connections that actually pay off, unlike that one 'influencer' who only hits you up for free stuff.
Action Items
Think of someone who always takes and never gives. Next time they ask for something, politely say 'no' or ask for something in return. See their true colors.
Find one person today and do a tiny, no-effort favor for them. Share an article, make an intro, or give a quick piece of advice. Don't expect anything back.
Scroll through your social media or phone contacts. Reach out to one 'weak tie' you haven't talked to in a while. Ask them how they're doing or share something relevant you saw. No agenda, just a check-in.
Identify one small thing you need help with today, even if it's just a quick question. Ask someone for help. See how easy it is and how willing they are.
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Key Chapter
Chapter - The Three Tribes of Humanity: Givers, Takers, and Matchers
Ever wonder why some people just get ahead while others are stuck in the mud? This chapter breaks down humanity into three basic vibes: the Givers, who are always helping out; the Takers, who are basically human black holes; and the Matchers, who are all about that 'you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours' energy. It's not about being a saint; it's about understanding how these different approaches play out in the real world. You'll see why the most successful people often aren't the sharks, but the ones who genuinely lift others up. It's like figuring out who's gonna share their fries and who's gonna steal yours.
Key Methods and Approaches
Spotting the Energy Vampires
(AKA: Identifying Takers)
Description:
Learn to sniff out the people who only hit you up when they need something, and disappear when you do.
Explanation:
Imagine your social circle is a group chat. Takers are those people who only ever DM you when they need a ride, a favor, or to borrow money, but never reply when you ask how their day was. They're like that one friend who always 'forgets' their wallet when the bill comes. They're not just selfish; they're actively draining your battery. You gotta learn to see them coming before they suck you dry like a cheap juice box.
Examples:
That 'friend' who only calls you when they need help moving, but is 'busy' when you need a hand.
The coworker who takes credit for your ideas in meetings.
The person who always asks for free advice but never offers to pay or reciprocate.
Today's Action:
Think of someone who always takes and never gives. Next time they ask for something, politely say 'no' or ask for something in return. See their true colors.
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